12 Powerful Ideas and Ways To Help You
Claim Your Freedom and Stop Hair Pulling
by Abby Leora Rohrer
Trichotillomania, also known as compulsive hair pulling, is a form of self-harm, There may be different reasons why someone becomes a hair puller, one of
which may stem from unresolved emotional distress or trauma. Hair pulling
can quickly turn into a virulent habit or addiction.
The different ways each person might deal with a compulsive behavior like hair pulling
is greatly influenced by the culture in which you live. What are your
beliefs? Do you believe that you can completely free yourself or that
you must live each day attempting to control your hair pulling habit?
Do you believe that someone else holds the key to ending your suffering?
Here are some powerful ideas to help you see your situation in a new
way and to move forward to completely free yourself from trichotillomania:
Become aware of your fears, personal biases and the compromises you
make as you choose a method to help you end hair pulling. Think about
whether you want natural healing and personal growth or a conventional
solution with a traditional cure.
Resolve the hidden issues that lead to mental and physical problems. "Authentic
Healing" uses an invisible natural self-healing system inside each
of us. Everyone has this system and can learn to use it. Authentic healing
experiences always increase your personal power and help you to grow
as a person.
Empower yourself through authentic healing to listen to and trust
your instincts about what you need. Authentic healing is holistic and
encompasses all aspects of human life, the physical, mental, emotional
and spiritual. It always brings these four aspects of you into natural
balance. When you use this method of healing, you become the true expert
about what you need to resolve each problem.
Address your addictive nature. Traditional cures come from outside
of you, are done to you and are usually "generic" in nature.
They don't help you to uncover the root-cause of your hair pulling but
simply attempt to rid you of the urge to pull (symptom) and the unhappy
consequences of your pulling. Sensitive hair pullers may find this approach
disempowering because it doesn't help you to become balanced, evolve,
take into account whom you uniquely are or completely resolve why you
became a hair puller in the first place. This approach is likely to cover
over your addictive nature rather than address it.
Increase your personal power. Trichotillomania sufferers often desperately
hope that if they can find the right expert, they will find a cure. But
cures don't increase your power because they don't help you to grow or
use your intuition and feeling-sense to help you to fully resolve your
hair pulling. This approach may decrease your feelings of personal power.
Reduce your anxiety by taking an active role in freeing yourself.
Many hair pullers struggle daily with chronic anxiety. Western society
tells us that outside experts know more about our emotional and physical
health than we do and that others hold the answers to our suffering and
the power to fix us. In our age of managed care and HMO’s, this
message is so pervasive that it causes chronic anxiety and feelings of
powerlessness. A natural way to increase your personal power and decrease
your anxiety is to take an active role in your own recovery by using
your own authentic healing system.
Take responsibility for yourself. “Give a man a fish and you
feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” (Lao
Tzu) Authentic healing is a lot like knowing how to fish and being capable
of feeding yourself whenever you need to. It automatically increases
your personal power and self-esteem because it uses your intuition, creativity,
courage and independent thinking. Once you learn how to self-heal, you
can do it again and again for other issues, each time gathering more
power to you.
Put a "Gone Fishing" sign on your door. Being cured is
like being handed a fish just for tonight’s dinner. While a cure
provides a solution to this one issue, it may also create dependency.
You will always need to return to the outside source for another cure.
This dependency is like an “addiction” because it decreases
your power and self-esteem.
Look for the real cause. Seeking a cure for hair pulling may provide
you with a short-term solution but won't ultimately rescue you from doing
the inner work to fix what caused you to pull in the first place. Authentic
healing guides you look at the real cause of your hair pulling and to
fully resolve that.
Learn to use experts as consultants and “tools” to assist
you in your own process. Because authentic healing is a personal journey,
you can continue to use experts but in a different way.
Stay only with empowering healing partners. Some experts may hold
a negative “my way is the only way” mindset, while others
may empower you to take personal responsibility and to find your own
power. Stick with the latter.
Find and use great support tools. There are many wonderful healing
techniques and tools available and more arrive on the scene daily. While
there is inner work to be done, you don't have to go it alone more than
is necessary. The key is to find what's right for you by trusting your
intuition and feelings to guide you throughout your healing process.
If you’d like more help to stop hair pulling you can visit my 123TrichotillomaniaFree web site which discusses my book, What's Wrong With Pulling My Hair Out? It's a great place to begin. It is also available from this website and can be purchased right now using this order link.
If you’re an adult male hair puller or a woman hair puller without internet access who is ready to commit to your freedom, you may wish to consider the Pull-Free, At Last! System available at www.PullFreeAtLast.com.